Friday, August 1, 2008

Feel Good Moments......


I am sure that to some of you it appears as though I never have these moments. Those moments when you just bust with pride at something your kid does. For the record, I do have these moments, just not in the summer.....Summer is a very bad time of year for both kids. But I think I have covered that so no need to review the negative.


This morning....My daughter, Rose, who is my most challenging child...gave me a feel good moment. Of course, you may not view this as a feel good moment...But to a RAD mom....it is!

Every morning this kid yanks my chain. I always rush around...I think that there is no reason to dilly dally if you don't need to. AND she knows super slow drives me INSANE....So I would say almost every morning she goes turtle slow....And without fail....she gets a reaction out of me.


I am trying a new tact with her. Everytime she does something that she thinks will get a reaction, I put my pillow over my head and think of anything else...sometimes that includes me running away or having a kid that follows directions.....call me crazy but that is what i fantasize about.......BUT this morning......she got up, put appropriate clothing on (a big deal in itself), ate breakfast without food drama, made her lunch for camp without scamming me, put on her sneakers without the it's unfair I can't wear flip flops tirade, and left the house with my husband..... Wicked awesome right?


So I have to say this is quite an encouragement to me. When I feel the most hopeless about our situation, she sucks me back in! I smile and think....perhaps this just might be better than good! So I had to share my little victory.....


I have another victory...Marie got some fairly upsetting information about her bio brother last week and she has not had a tantrum....Which also rocks.....My kiddos are slowly but surely becoming healthy.....


Thinking about these things, give me positive energy to start my weekend with....


Be Well

2 comments:

Christine said...

Ya' know, RAD is so insanely constant, that we totally miss out on the little bits of progress (which, in the world of RAD, are actually HUGE!).

I have also noticed with my son that the best times also come after the absolute worst times of rage. I know it, but in the middle of the anger I still find myself thinking that he'll never pull out of that moment. I certainly can't bring myself to think that there will be steps forward on the other side.

Then, I find myself totally shocked!

Ah well. That's what he gets for having a totally human mom!

Brenda said...

Congrats on the morning!!